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Date Answered: 9/26/2013
Do you believe in life after love?
Dear The Lonely One,

Ah, love. And the afterlife. Such dreamy topics. QB is thrilled to take on your very deep question using expert library resources, but the question QB has for you is: can you handle the truth in this instance? QB really doesn't think you're strong enough, now! You sure? Then, onward, fearless reader. Letís explore the possibilities of "life after love."

QB first thought it best to think about what we really mean by "love," which, dear reader, you likely know to be a fraught concept. According to the entry for "Western Notions of Love" in the New Dictionary of the History of Ideas, "love has been used to describe the feelings of a child toward a parent, one's feelings for friends and comrades, a religious yearning for transcendence, an entirely materialistic desire for physical sexual gratification, and the list could go on." On the other hand, the entry for "Love" in The Encyclopedia of Philosophy suggests that love in the Platonic sense--which continues to have a strong pull on our understandings of the concept--"can take on many forms, from gross sexual passion to a devotion to learning, but, it was argued, the ultimate object of love is the beautiful." Clearly, love is a state of being--often described as a desire or set of desires toward the beloved object--and, thus, it's difficult to say whether there's actually even a before or after of "love." Indeed, Siobhan Somerville's entry on "Queer" in Keywords for American Cultural Studies suggests that "queer"-- a term thatís rooted for some in conceptions of love--approaches to time can trouble our notions of before and after, particularly regarding romantic and familial relations.

Still, dear reader, QB intuits that you're referencing the point in time during what the entry for "Love" in the Encyclopedia of Sociology refers to as the "romantic love complex," a cultural force in which intense romantic feelings for a partner are idealized and the romantic relationship is posited as the current greatest good. As this entry states, though,"we know that people fall in and out of love several times in a lifetime." This, dear reader, gives QB hope. You see, if there's no life after love, how can people fall in and out of it several times? QB must admit that QB has no personal experience with this--QBís never quite met that special other corkboard to attach all the love QB has pent up inside to (although QB must admit that QB sometimes sends a suggestive wink in the direction of that cute cultural diversity corkboard in the lower lever atrium). Take heart, dear reader, if you've lost your beloved. As we've seen, there are so many kinds of love, that QB rather doubts that youíll ever be able to be in an "after" of love; if your romantic love complex has crumbled, turn to one of those many other definitions of love. For some last words, QB will defer to the wisdom of that all-knowing goddess, Cher: "But I know that Iíll get through this,/ 'Cause I know that I am strong." Yes, reader, QB believes in life after love.

After all is said and done,

Source(s) Used to Answer Question:
"Love, Western Notions of." New Dictionary of the History of Ideas, vol 3. Ed. Maryanne Cline Horowitz. Detroit: Charles Scribnerís Sons, 2005. 1317-1320. Gale Virtual Reference Library. Web. 24 September 2013.

"Love." Encyclopedia of Philosophy, vol 5. Ed. Donald M. Borchert. 2nd ed. Detroit: Macmillan Reference, 2006. 583-590. Gale Virtual Reference Library. Web. 24 September 2013.

Somerville, Siobhan B. "Queer." Keywords for American Cultural Studies. New York: New York University Press, 2007. Credo Online Reference Collection. Web. 25 September 2013.

"Love." Encyclopedia of Sociology, vol. 3. 2nd ed. New York: Macmillan Reference, 2001. Gale Virtual Reference Library. Web. 24 September 2013.